Remember the people from school, who used to make you feel miserable, when you were very young and naive to understand better. People who you used to wish would play team but they just bullied you. These are the same ones, your colleagues at work who think they always know best or think that you don't perhaps know anything. Yes I am talking about the Difficult People, who don't seem to budge even a little or adjust a bit for the common good.
I have thought about why these people do what they do and why they don't do what might be the most sensible thing to do at that time. The answer, I think is that these people are very insecure most of the time. The disagreements over everything, the bullying, the bossing others and dictating everything, comes from a deep urge to feel in control all the time. When they ridicule you, when they want to push you down, when they belittle you with their every act, they are simply trying, so desperately to feel the power they crave for, the authority they demand but can never command.
I have thought about why these people do what they do and why they don't do what might be the most sensible thing to do at that time. The answer, I think is that these people are very insecure most of the time. The disagreements over everything, the bullying, the bossing others and dictating everything, comes from a deep urge to feel in control all the time. When they ridicule you, when they want to push you down, when they belittle you with their every act, they are simply trying, so desperately to feel the power they crave for, the authority they demand but can never command.
